When a child has ADHD, everyone in the family is affected, especially siblings. Story Massage is proving a beneficial way of helping siblings express their mixed and difficult emotions about living with a sister or brother with ADHD.
Leanne Brown, a mother of four children who writes a regular blog on Massage and ADHD, says her 11 year old daughter Charlotte, finds Story Massage is a channel to give meaning to her feelings and to express what she is going through. With a little help from her Mum, Charlotte has written this moving massage story as a way of supporting other siblings who, like her, might be struggling to live with ADHD.
Living with ADHD
By Charlotte Brown aged 11
I love my little sister (The Calm)
But sometimes I find it hard. (The Squeeze)
She gets lots of attention (The Drum)
And she’s really loud.
I feel like being naughty (The Walk)
So that I can be just like her.
But no one understands.
So instead I feel sad and angry (The Bounce)
It’s scary when I think too much.
My tummy feels mixed up inside (The Circle)
Cause I’m worried a little bit too.
Yes it’s scary when I think too much (The Bounce)
About what she might do next.
I feel a little alone inside (The Sprinkle)
I wish this would go away. (The Fan)
My sister has ADHD (The Calm)
I don’t understand but I hate it (The Claw)
She’s always shouting and angry.
She never stays still in the day (The Wave)
I wish ADHD would go away.
But mummy makes me feel safe (The Calm)
She’s there holding my hand.
She protects and helps me (The Circle)
Make sense of this sister of mine.
I have a little sister (The Calm)
This little sister of mine (The Walk)
Cause even with ADHD
She’s my sister, my heart, just mine. (The Circle)
Benefits of Story Massage for ADHD – A Mother’s Perspective
Leanne attended one of our training days last year and has found it such a helpful positive touch activity within her own family that she now runs sessions for parents wishing to introduce the benefits of Story Massage to their own children. She can be contacted here: Marsham Holistic Therapy. Leanne says the benefits of Story Massage for her family include:
- Story Massage is a wonderful reward for completing chores at home or counting the days to an exciting event. Now that we have integrated Story Massage into our routine the reward can be either a massage just for them or to be able to make up their own story. My children love it.
- Story Massage is a simple and quick way of giving individual attention to a child. It makes them feel special.
- Story Massage can help calm down potentially explosive arguments before they start: this is one of my most difficult times. And this is where Story Massage has become a huge help. If any of the girls are feeling tense, upset or tired massage is a great way to diffuse the situation calmly and peacefully. It is one of the things that really works.
Story Massage Book and Training
Story Massage is a combination of ten simple and fun massage strokes used in combination with engaging words. The strokes, in brackets in Charlotte’s story above, form the basis of our Story Massage book Once Upon a Touch…Story Massage for Children (Singing Dragon, £11.99) and our training days. Story Massage Training. The book includes easy to follow instructions for learning the strokes at home and a choice of over 25 different massage stories to share.